Oh mama!!! Does it make me a bad mommy if I say that I’m so happy that spring break is over? I love, love, love my kids and I love spending quality time with them… but spending quality time while you are ALSO supposed to be working??? Well it just doesn’t mix!
You may (or may not) have noticed that I didn’t post a single time last week. Not once! A month ago I posted a story about a video that made me cry, and quite frankly feel like a bad mom. The video is all about spending quality time with your kids, undistracted, down on the floor, imaginative, playtime… That’s something that I feel like I don’t have much time for these days, so I decided that during spring break I was going to do just that– I was going to be present. I was going to take my kids to the park EVERY day. I was going to create with them. I was going to cuddle with them, read with them, imagine with them… and I wasn’t going to worry about the stuff that wasn’t getting done.
You see, I had this realization–
It’s the moments where I feel split between work life and mom life that cause me to lose my mind!
I can handle doing “Mom Stuff” when I am not silently counting the million and one work things I’m not getting done for work.
I’m a super woman at my job… if I’m not feeling “mommy guilt” because I’m not spending enough time with the kiddos.
I attended BlogHer last summer and the moment that I keep going back to again and again is when I heard Danielle Smith from Extraordinary Mommy speak. Danielle said that she had been asked how she would want her daughter to remember her when she’s gone. The answer?
“She did both.”
Aka she was an extraordinary mother and she did something for a living that she was passionate about.
My kids know that I am passionate about my work, so I decided to spend spring break enjoying their company. Work was put on the back burner last week and the 3 of us spent time together– without the distraction of work, without the intrusion of taking photos to use for blog content and without that nagging feeling of “…BUT THERE IS SO MUCH TO GET DONE!!!”
I was present and I feel really, really good about that.
Now Monday is here, spring break is over, I’m back in full swing, and my to do list is a mile long!
Sounds like you did an *amazing* job of spending quality time over March break – congrats!! I totally hear you on feeling torn between work and home responsibilities and parenting, it is definitely an ongoing challenge. I think being aware of the importance of being “present” is half the battle.
Thank you so much Sonia. It’s a battle isn’t it? My husband works out of the home and I work in the home. Spring break, ProD days, holidays… I’m here so my schedule gets adjusted. It’s one of the best things about working from home (flexible hours) but it’s also challenging to get everything done.
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